Tuesday, November 18, 2025

The Path of Peace

And now, a life update...

Short Version:  Within a 48-hour period, I received the two best job offers of my life last week!  And yesterday, I gladly accepted a court reporter position with the Oklahoma Corporation Commission! ❤

Detailed Version:  The counseling market is oversaturated right now, while court reporting is facing a major shortage.  This means that desirable counseling jobs (especially entry-level roles) are limited, while there are loads of CR openings (for which I'm well qualified after nearly 21 years in the field).  Over the past year, my focus has shifted.  My current hope is to continue with court reporting as my primary career, then teach at CCU on the side after finishing my PhD.  

Last week, I interviewed for a Federal Court Reporter position in Tulsa.  It was a Zoom panel with two hiring officials and five other court reporters, but I felt surprisingly calm.  We had a great conversation where I learned a lot about the role:  meticulously tracking work hours, working with a judge who speaks clearly and slowly but requires realtime for every  hearing, being able to work from home when not in court, busy dockets, and a faster 30-day turnaround time on all transcripts at a lower page rate than I currently charge.  By the end of the day, I received an official job offer.

Becoming a Federal CR is really the pinnacle of the profession, so receiving that offer was a surprising honor and a confidence boost!  To be clear, the offer came with a substantial pay increase (potentially $50-90k+ more each year, depending on transcript volume), fantastic benefits, and a significantly heavier workload.

Even though the idea of moving during the holidays, upgrading all my equipment, pausing the doctoral program, potentially hearing traumatizing things in court, and mastering realtime before facing a courtroom full of high-level jury trials was extremely stressful, I was really leaning toward accepting.  I had talked with my CCU advisor, Chet was sending me house listings, and Mom and I were discussing new steno machines and CRR prep.  It felt like the ominous uphill climb at the beginning of a roller-coaster that I knew would be a rocky learning curve for at least the first six months.

Thanks to Rachael's interest in court reporting leading to Mom's recent conversation with Marilyn, I had also thrown my application in with the Oklahoma Corporation Commission just over a week ago.  I assumed the Federal role would be the one I took if it was offered, and the OCC could be a solid backup option.

After a very long and exhausting Friday in court last week (which honestly felt like God reminding me that I'm happier when cases settle rather than drag into long trials), Amy from the OCC called.  We talked for 30 minutes, and I knew within the first five minutes that I wanted that job!!  With the ongoing shortage, she essentially offered me the position on the spot.  I spoke with Andrea Monday morning -- another CR on their leadership team -- and officially said yes.  I submitted my resignation to Judge Brockman yesterday afternoon and sent my decline email to the federal court this morning.  My final day here will be 12-23, and for HR reasons, my start date with the OCC will be 12-29.

This will be a lateral move salary-wise since it's still an Oklahoma state CR role, but the benefits include:  Being managed by other CRs who understand and place a high value on court reporters, no realtime requirement, a legit electronic filing system (yes, please), a higher transcript page rate ($7.50 per page!), a predictable and non-traumatizing docket of mostly oil and gas cases, and working remotely from home all but 3-4 days per month!!  That makes this the most flexible work role I've ever had, which many of you know is truly saying something. lol  Their hearings are all Zoom recorded, so the backup audio will be solid and comforting.  And it allows me to continue moving forward with the PhD program at the accelerated pace!

Early on, I joked that this choice came down to greed vs. laziness, but truly, it came down to alignment vs. pressure.  Both job offers are excellent, and I trust that I would be valued and have stability and job security either way.  After careful and prayerful consideration, I have chosen the role that aligns with my long-term goals, the life I'm building, and the peace I want to protect!

Interestingly, this is the second year in a row where I almost rushed back to Tulsa for a new year transition, then God kept me here.  So I'm choosing to embrace that and make the most of being in OKC in 2026, trusting God's timing and plan.  After 48 hours of nonstop brainstorming about  the moving process (which is the actual worst) and wrestling with the intensity of the Federal job details, the OCC position was a real quick yes for me!

Yes to peace.
Yes to flexibility.
Yes to staying on track with the PhD.
Yes to an unhurried holiday season.
Yes to family dinners, CHA events, and keeping life rooted right now.
Yes to creating a beautiful home office space I'll enjoy instead of packing up my paid-off home!  

I still see myself eventually landing in Tulsa, but I don't want to rush it.  I am genuinely happy to stay in the OKC area a little longer.  And while I tend to worry about how my decisions affect others, the Tulsa federal court should not have trouble finding a dedicated court reporter who desires that level of intensity, and being able to give Judge Brockman over a month's notice helped ease that transition and made yesterday's conversation less difficult.

I am deeply grateful for God's timing in ALL of the above.  It needed to happen in this sequence for me to feel affirmed and believe I'm competent and capable of handling the Federal CR role, but also to feel flooded with peace, relief, and joy when the OCC door opened! ❤

Dinner Party

Day 18:  You can invite three people (living or dead) to dinner.  Who are they, and what would you serve?

A million ways you could go with this, and there are loads of celebrities or podcast "friends" I'd love to hang out with... but in this season, my initial thought was Jesus, John Eldredge, and my cousin (a caring and introspective Christian-turned-atheist after experiencing some trauma and church hurt).  I would mostly love to observe and learn from that conversation -- I'm confident there would be laughter and a really comfortable group atmosphere where everyone feels seen and heard and valued, and I know there would be lingering deep conversation -- honest wrestling with painful topics, sharp-yet-vulnerable questions, deep curiosity, genuine care and empathy, and wise and safe men who get to the heart of the matter and gently speak truth in love. ❤

I'm not pulling a Martha and putting all the hostess pressure on myself when Jesus is invited... (yet apparently my brain has zero issues with inviting Him to Vegas!? lol)  So "I" would serve Mon Ami Gabi's delightful brunch menu! 

Nom nom for us, David. ;-)

Or if it really had to be dinner, I would go with family-style Maggiano's for Italian appetizers, dinner, and dessert!! =)

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Monday, November 17, 2025

Rewrites and Regrets

Day 17:  If you could rewrite one scene from your life, what would you change - or would you keep it exactly as it is?

Excerpt from a 2019 post:  This moment from We are The Millers will forever be what I think of when I say "No regrets!" lol 
..."None?  Not even a single letter!?" 🤣


I'm not a big believer in regrets.  I remember one of the many Myers-Briggs sites I have visited saying that INFJs are the least likely to wish they could go back and change anything because we are able to see purposeful connections and meaning in all of our experiences, and that rang true.  I believe deeply that God has a bigger plan than I could fathom now and He has the power to use my pain for a purpose - for personal growth and for the ultimate good.  And that makes it hard to regret anything, and I'm so thankful for that.  I have put my heart out there in several friendships that ended poorly, and I have taken steps toward many life changes that did not pan out in the end, but it creates resilience when you can look back and see what you've learned and how you've grown from each of those hard events.  The only thing we should ever regret is our sin, and that regret should be temporary because we can seek forgiveness and choose to find healing and change our course."  

~Lindsey from 6 years ago, echoed by Lindsey from today ;-) ❤

In other news, tonight was the YouVersion "Beyond a Billion" event celebrating a billion downloads of the Bible App.  It was the first app I downloaded on my iPhone in 2009, and I'm grateful for Bobby Gruenwald's creative genius and Craig's generosity and leadership with this project.  The first 30 minutes of the event (before they started streaming) were full of painful filler and hype and small talk that nearly led me to miss a really great worship night.  It got MUCH better.  The night included stellar live and in-person worship with CeCe Winans, Lauren Daigle, Matt Redman, Brooke Ligertwood, Kari Jobe, Chris Tomlin, Phil Wickham, and more... along with brief messages from Craig, Bobby, Christine Caine, Louie Giglio, etc.  

The countdown to a billion was marked by loads of confetti at the sold-out Paycom Center! ❤


CeCe, Matt, and Phil... so many great singers tonight!


Today was intense, but in a good way.  More details tomorrow.
Happy Monday!
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Sunday, November 16, 2025

Resilient Strength

Day 16:  What has counseling taught you about people’s resilience and inner strength?

I can't write about client stories here, and I don't have the time or energy to get very deep tonight (she says before diving in), but resilience and resurrection go together.  When you feel defeated or beaten or think you have nothing left to give, resilience rises back to the surface.  In both of my jobs and in my own life experiences, again and again, people find the inner strength to rise to the challenge.  To find beauty after brokenness, gratitude in grief, hope and healing after heartbreak.  While inner strength and grit are important, the value of safe relationships and rest stand out to me right now as key elements for building resilience and inner strength.  Peace matters, and it is worth protecting.  Feeling seen and known and valued by God and/or the people in our lives matters deeply for our ability to heal, bounce back, and move forward after setbacks.  And that concludes my short answer to a question I might write a full chapter on someday.

Today, Mom and I made a Tulsa trip to help decorate Chet's KW office! =)


Tate and Parker were the best helpers! =)

And movie watchers (watching Home Alone). ❤


Mom and Chettles make a wonderful and entertaining team!  Mission accomplished on the KW decor, and we got to see the model home Chet's been holding open after an Amber Marie shopping spree! =)

Throwback to seeing Mrs. Doubtfire with the Wilsons the day after we got back from Disney last year! =)  I remember voice-blogging (dictating into a phone note) about our trip on my drive back home after the play. lol

This goes with nothing else in this post, but it's fun to see Rach painting and transforming furniture!

Hope you've had a lovely weekend!
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Saturday, November 15, 2025

2026 Dreams

Day 15:  What dreams or goals are stirring in your heart for 2026 and beyond?

This year has included a lot of heavy decisions and high stress, so I hope 2026 = lighter stress, lighter workload, lighter weight, lighter screentime habits, stronger sense of self, and investing more in good relationships!

I'm running low on energy, so I'm keeping this one short.  Today was the OSU vs. K-State game, and the Whitakers joined me for the trip to Stillwater using Dad's club-level tickets!  Fun times!!


That's all for now.
Happy Saturday!!
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Friday, November 14, 2025

Alternate Universe

Day 14:  In an alternate universe, what does your life look like?

  • In an alternate universe, I was a CHA cheerleader all through my junior high and high school years, and I really loved it!
  • OR I was seriously injured trying to master the tumbling, or humiliated when I tried out and didn't make the squad.
  • In an alternate universe, I never endured Bells Palsy.
  • OR my smile never healed and came back.
  • In an alternate universe, the feelings were mutual, and I'm a very happy wife and stay-at-home mom with three lovely daughters, living in Virginia Beach.
  • OR I really miss my family and I'm a little bored and lonely and navigating how to rebuild my own identity after years of merging/disappearing behind the pedestal.
  • In an alternate universe, I ran the Nike Women's Marathon, and I'm rocking that Tiffany necklace "medal."
  • OR I collapsed midway through on the rough hills of San Francisco. lol
  • In an alternate universe, Malori and I are lifelong besties, and it's been uncomplicated and fun and meaningful.
  • OR trying to maintain that friendship turned me into a version of myself that I don't really like or respect.
  • In an alternate universe, counseling was all that I hoped it would be, and I'm building my own successful walk-and-talk therapy business.
  • OR I'm trying very hard to build a business, but the stress and liability are taking a toll.
  • In an alternate universe, I am a sharply-dressed, realtime-certified Federal court reporter working from home  a couple days a week and making around 200k per year!
  • OR I'm drowning in transcripts, stressed about realtime jury voir dire, and hating tracking all of my hours.
  • In an alternate universe, I am a single mom with a great supportive community happily raising my 3-year-old biological child after a successful IUI procedure in 2022.
  • OR I'm experiencing the high stress and loneliness a lot of single moms experience, questioning all of my decisions and struggling emotionally.
  • In an alternate universe, I have joyfully announced that I am pregnant with a beautiful biracial adopted child through embryo adoption - people are celebrating this with me, and baby showers are being planned by friends and family.
  • OR I am suffering physically and emotionally, quietly mourning a miscarriage on my own. 
  • In an alternate universe, I moved to Broken Arrow in February, and I am over halfway done with my required hours for candidacy, learning a lot and working alongside Marla as an elementary school therapist for CREOKS.
  • OR I regret moving, I hated that job, and I feel like I took a step backwards falling back to the Creek County CR role.
  • In an alternate universe, I have published several memoir books and gradually become a New York Times best-selling author!
  • OR I published my very first book and got harsh critical feedback that felt crushing.
  • In an alternate universe, we are still a party of 9 at family dinners, and our family has experienced far less brokenness and trauma.
  • OR our lives were drastically altered because Mom and Dad were killed in their car wreck on this day 14 years ago.

Yeah... life could look very, very different.  And it can be interesting to think about the various branches where life might have gone in another direction... there are literally thousands of them in all of our lives, for better or worse.  But remember to frame it with some realism and gratitude.  Adele is right - "Sometimes the road less traveled is the road best left behind."  Truly, through all the twists and turns, God is protective and caring.  He directs and redirects our steps, and we can trust Him to work in all things (tragedy and trauma included) for our good and for His glory!!  ❤

Okay, in other news, here's a quick Photo Friday catch-up:
Jace's basketball team after a very dramatic and exciting last-second win last night!! =)


Kenzie and Rach chatting it up post-game =)

Gideon, TJ, and Jaceman!

Preshface Parker Elizabeth feeling cute at her CFA breakfast with her awesome Dad!

A lot has happened in my life this week - job offers and big decisions and God being very kind and protective.  I'm grateful, and today's verse of the day feels appropriate!!

Happy Friday, friends!
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Thursday, November 13, 2025

Qualities

Day 13:  What’s a personal quality you’re proud of that others often notice?

(This question feels oddly phrased.)

Mind - I'm proud of cultivating a growth mindset where I always learn new things, and it's nice when others know me well enough to compliment that

Body - I'm proud of and deeply grateful for my smile (after experiencing facial paralysis with Bells Palsy, the ability to smile means a great deal to me, and I'm happy any time I hear compliments on that)

Soul - I am proud that I prioritize quality relationships and genuinely care about people; hopefully they notice and feel that, as well

Spirit - Pride isn't the right word, but I'm thankful that I'm willing to be brutally honest in confessing sin and repenting and pursuing peace with God 

Overall - Resilience and sincerity

Shifting gears, how great is this video?  I really love seeing their friendship, and I love and miss James Corden!!  He. is. precious!

"Oh, I hope in time we both will find peace of mind.
Sometimes the road less traveled is the road best left behind.
Well, I hope I learn to get over myself,
And stop trying to be somebody else..."

Happy Thursday, friends and fam!

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