Courtroom Lessons

Day 6:  What has court reporting taught you about people and human nature?

I don't wanna go into case-by-case details here, but you see a lot and learn a lot in 21 years.  As a quiet observer who loves studying people, I am grateful for all court reporting has taught me.

As I thought about this prompt earlier, this verse came to mind...

I think one of the big things court reporting has taught me is to be more "shrewd."  Not cynical or fear-based or always assuming the worst, but less naive and gullible and easily-targeted. Viewing the world with more cautious discretion and wisdom, being a sharper judge of character, and being more prepared and alert to real evil and danger.  (The Bible teaches that, as well - to be on our guard because our spiritual enemy prowls around seeking someone to devour.)  Sexual predators do the same, and so many parents seem unaware of the threat.  So I am more vigilant, less likely to fall for sob stories or quickly trust people who have a lot to gain by lying, and more likely to want to hear both sides of a story and pay attention to real evidence over passionately-spoken words.  Still, I don't always get it right, and I do always sincerely hope people will turn a corner and change for the better!

Other quick thoughts:

Family court is rough, and I do not envy the judges who have to make custody decisions.

I see a lot of systemic brokenness in the juvenile system, and I am consistently frustrated by the way DHS operates.  

I believe people always have a choice when they screw up or hit rock bottom - 85%+ seem to choose victim-thinking and staying stuck in old patterns, but 15% find the inner grit to put in the messy hard work and change their future path for the better.  I love to see that!

(The above holds true for criminals and non-criminals alike, and I want to be in the smaller group who chooses active transformation over self-pity!)

There is real evil and violence and pain and trauma in the world.  We see a lot of people in their most stressful season, which is true for counseling profession, as well.  Prayer matters, character matters, kindness matters, and anchoring yourself in eternal hope matters.  We all have the opportunity to be a light shining in a dark world!

Speaking of lights that shine in darkness, here's our family pic with the harvest moon/supermoon last night!  Unsurprisingly, the selfie in night-mode failed to really capture it well, but still, yay for God's creativity, and yay for family dinners!!

Our jury trial ended with a not guilty verdict yesterday, and our second trial for this week settled - huzzah!  So today was light and breezy, and I met my cousin, Ashley, for lunch at La Baguette in Norman!  It had been a while, and it was really good to catch up with her!

And their bakery is legit.

Mel's podcast on how to combat overwhelm included some fantastic, counterintuitive advice.  This = my key takeaways, but it's worth listening to (HERE).

And that's all I have for today!

See y'all tomorrow!! =)

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