Saturday, May 10, 2025
Graduation!!
Wednesday, May 7, 2025
A Family Dinner to Remember
'Twas a memorable fam dinner last night...
We had a delicious breakfast for dinner meal + the chocolate cake with Oreo icing - all good! Mom and I are flying to Colorado tomorrow morning, and I wanted lovely curls for Graduation. It always takes me forever to get them right, so I brought my Halo extensions hair for Rach to curl. Naturally, I'm holding that hanger and flinching every time the hot curling iron gets close to me whilst Rach elevates and ices her bleeding ankle (the same varicose vein that erupted during Kyndal's birthday party). Somewhere in there, I was struck by the comedy of all this and asked Mom to take our photo! lol
The Anchor Holds
In the 4.5 months since I finished grad school, I’ve had ten interviews:
- CREOKS – (Zoom interview with Jessica) - Accepted a school therapist role; prayed and changed my mind about moving and working with kids - no regrets
- Charlie Health – (Two Zoom interviews with Dominique) - Recruited on LinkedIn; eventually passed over
- Red Rock – (In-person interview with Stephanie) - Froze on a difficult question; eventually received a rejection email
- Counseling & Recovery Services – (Zoom interview with Sara) - Realized it was for a school therapist role and withdrew my application
- Family & Children's Services – (In-person interview with Koreena) - Thought it went great; got a rejection email - they do say they prefer LCSWs
- Moore Counseling – (In-person interview with Dr. Ward; Zoom interview with Brandie) - Really encouraging interviews, but their part-time offer wasn’t feasible right now
- Colorado Christian PhD – (Zoom group & individual interviews) - Great experience - I'm in; the program begins next month!
I was also excited about the Maternal Mental Health Therapist opening with FCS, but they filled that position before we even scheduled an interview. In addition to all of these interviews, I've spent loads of time and energy on job searches, resume updates, networking, cold applications, follow-up phone calls, website building, discussions with potential supervisors, and several processing talks with Mom, Chet, and Kristin - grateful for their abundant wisdom and patience as I wade through this messy season. The internal pressure is real, and the hustle has been exhausting, especially for a classic introvert. The closed doors and continuing questions from others are beginning to feel a bit embarrassing, and this holding pattern is forcing me to ask some hard questions: Am I climbing the wrong mountain? Is God using rejection to redirect me? Should I double down on counseling… or embrace the practical benefits of court reporting again?
To be clear, I absolutely acknowledge that my current frustration is relatively minor compared to what many are going through. I am not oblivious or indifferent to the pain of friends who are dealing with personal health issues, challenging family dynamics, caring for aging parents, navigating a move, grief, cancer, and more... there are certainly additional elements to my story that I don't feel free to share on the public blog, but all in all, this season of waiting is more frustrating than truly painful. I am also confident that this entire process is sharpening me — I’ve become better at interviews, more articulate about my counseling philosophy, and clearer about my values over the past few months. And I'm realizing how much financial stability matters to me, especially if I’m ever blessed to become a mom — (and court reporting currently meets that need better than counseling does).
So I spent the early part of this week in an online seminar to keep up my CR certifications, and I've recently applied for two court reporting positions in addition to other counseling jobs - which feels a little crazy, but we'll see what doors God chooses to open. It's ironic that I had been so eager to write the “Court is Adjourned” blog as I transition into full-time counseling. That dream appears to be on pause - I still don't have a supervisor, and I haven’t seen a client since August. This season mirrors my one semester at OBU — overwhelmed by a long list of VAGUE possibilities, I opted for the security of court reporting school. That practical decision served me well back then, and I’m grateful for the financial stability it continues to provide today!
Singleness also plays into these decisions. I sometimes imagine myself as tethered to my family and /or my friends in Tulsa. (Yes, I know we add great value to each other’s lives. But if I moved away, their daily routines wouldn’t change much, and that realization is both freeing and quietly painful.) Recently, I found myself lamenting that and longing to build with and be “tied down” to someone — to feel chosen, grounded, and truly tethered and connected to another person who shares the weight and the reward of these big decisions.
Then yesterday, Kristin Foster shared a clip of Christine Caine speaking on Hebrews 6:19, one of my very favorite verses. She said: “Jesus is very firm and very secure. The anchor will hold — but you better be connected to the anchor in order for the anchor to hold you. Ultimately, it's not that Jesus is unfaithful, but somewhere, we became untethered from the anchor.”
Mic drop.
God is good and kind, and nothing He allows is without purpose. So I'm taking a deep breath, praying for renewed strength and endurance, and joining David in declaring: "You are my God - my future is in Your hands."
“The Anchor holds, though the ship is battered.
The Anchor holds, though the sails are torn.
I have fallen on my knees as I face the raging seas…
The Anchor holds, in spite of the storm.”
❤️