Precious Joseph Gordon-Levitt goes to a party full of hope for a fun night where he reconnects with his ex-girlfriend and they dance and laugh and have sparkly conversation and go home together. Instead, he drinks alone and makes small talk with strangers while watching her be flirty and fun with other men. They do a split screen through the entire night of his expectations versus reality, and it resonates because we've all been there. Not that specific scenario, but anything in life where the reality we experience falls incredibly short of what we had imagined...
That shiny expectation is gradually slipping away as I step closer to a potential career transition. I am jumping through painful hoops and absurd rules as an LPC-Candidate, navigating the seemingly endless red tape, and looking for encouragement in counselors' "support groups" that are thickly layered with negativity, exhaustion, and self-protective tips on preventing lawsuits and angry emails. The mental health crisis is real, candidates cannot accept insurance, and the mental health coverage rules for Medicaid are shifting (not in the favor of counselors or clients). On top of that, I prefer working with adults, but every agency I've spoken with would prefer that I specialize with children (while no one has truly bothered to teach me how to do that well). Many parents don't want personal counseling but want us to magically fix their kids. And there is an absurd expectation for counselors to heal the trauma, teach the coping skills, diagnose accurately and quickly, and faithfully document their every move with measurable results and positive outcomes.
Disenchanted is an understatement.
The red tape, the fear-based thinking, expensive supervision meetings, personal safety concerns, lack of professional identity, lack of financial security/opportunity, unfair pressure to support everyone in their unique values and avoid offending anyone, it all feels... exhausting isn't even the right word. I'm a gritty person, and I don't mind hard work. Misaligned? Disappointing? Far from my hopes and expectations? Closer. I adore CCU's "grace and truth" motto. I have loved so much of what I've learned and experienced there, and it makes me want to shine the light of Christ in a dark world! But in the real world of counseling, the light of Christianity is being dimmed and hidden. I can feel the OK board's lack of grace and support with their rigid timelines and infuriating love of technicalities. It feels like every candidate I know is struggling with absurd stress levels and the lack of financial and emotional support... and it saddens me how much all of the above clouds our ability to be creative, to genuinely connect, and to offer compassionate and wise counsel!
It's not right, and it's not what I signed up for...
"The Sovereign Lord has filled me with His Spirit. The Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the suffering and afflicted. He has sent me to comfort the brokenhearted, to announce liberty to captives, and to open the eyes of the blind. He has sent me to tell those who mourn that the time of God's favor to them has come, and the day of His wrath to their enemies. To all who mourn in Israel He will give: beauty for ashes; joy instead of mourning; praise instead of heaviness. For God has planted them like strong and graceful oaks for His own glory. And they shall rebuild the ancient ruins, repairing cities long ago destroyed, reviving them though they have been deserted for many generations."
