Embrace the Partial

I think about this song often.

In a slightly comical way with my mindset toward food.

In a less comical way about my own marriage potential.

And lately, just quietly wondering about what will truly bring me fulfillment in life...

I'm reminded of this verse, which I've loved for a very long time:

"Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.  All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely."
~1 Corinthians 13:12

I LOVE the reminder that God sees me and loves me and knows me completely, especially since I feel genuine confused about what I want and what's best for me half the time. lol  I also love the reminder that earthly life feels "partial and incomplete" for EVERYONE - I'm not alone or unique in that inner void, and there is not some vital thing I can do or attain that will truly and finally "fix it."  The nature of sin is ever-increasing, so anything we turn to in idolatry or addiction patterns will never ever be "enough."  Marriage will never be enough to complete us.  Motherhood will never be enough to fulfill us.  A fantastic job will not be enough.  Great health, strength, beauty, degrees, vacations, money, security, political power - all fleeting and never enough to last and completely fulfill us.  Even our experience of God's presence, close friendships, and church community will never be enough here.  "ALLLLLL THAT I KNOW NOW is partial and incomplete."  All of it.  John Eldredge has helped me to view those things -- the best things I experience here -- as a glimpse or a preview of what life will be like in Heaven.  That perspective helps me so much right now.

"The temptation when you're in it with disappointment, loss, and unrealized dreams is to shut part of your heart down and pack it away.  We give up on relationship because it is partial.  We give up on friendship because it is partial.  We give up on work or on our calling because it is partial."  ~John Eldredge

Nothing less can satisfy us.

I have been working so hard to pursue big dreams over the past 3-4 years, and in the deepest part of me, I feel a growing disappointment and disenchantment with all of it this year.  And what I've really needed was the above reminder that it is all intended to be partial, even at its best.  Single motherhood would never have been perfect.  Married motherhood isn't either.  Even in the best and most God-honoring marriages.  Weight loss doesn't make life or health perfect.  Court reporting will always fall a bit short of being fulfilling for me.  Counseling work will usually fall short of the genuine connections and pay range I desire.  I can choose what I want to prioritize moving forward, but I would do well to remember that every human being alive is dealing with something that makes their life imperfect, partial, and incomplete.  And that's okay and normal and expected - that's the part I really need to hold on to!!

I fully believe that action is better than being stagnant, and we can (and should) experience a lot of love and gratitude and joy and wonder here!  However, there is no meaningful goal -- not one -- that will make our lives feel whole and complete.  And that's oddly comforting to me in this pivotal moment, because it takes the intense pressure off of me.  It means I am not failing at life, and God is not failing me.  I'm feeling the deep ache of wanting what is only available for me in Heaven, the sting of "the partial."  And I'm reminding myself to re-anchor my soul in the hope of knowing Jesus and spending eternity with Him, not in any earthly hope that I can muster up and push for here.

I appreciate this chart, but believing we can find lasting "bliss" if we only find the perfect job role for ourselves is false hope.  We should make the effort to find work we enjoy and live lives that matter and help others, but nothing will always be perfect.  The hero's journey does not end in bliss, but in setting new goals and keeping a right perspective.  Life is messy, and perfection will not arrive for any of us unless or until we meet Jesus face to face, which is a big relief to my perfectionistic mind and longing heart.  It's not on me.  Perfect relational connections, perfect health and beauty, and fulfilling work are all coming later.  For now, we can "embrace the partial" and make the most of the time, energy, and wonderful people God gives us to love here!!

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Shifting gears, please be praying for my Aunt Marilyn, who had a stroke last Tuesday.  Her speech and facial movement are improving, and she is being moved to a rehab facility today.  This = the Texas Muecke fam last Thanksgiving, with Marilyn and Gus on the right!

She's next to me after our Red Robin lunch here:

And keep my Aunt JoBug (LaJo) in your prayers also - she had a bacterial infection/virus that caused some A-Fib issues and resulted in her heart being shocked back into the sinus rhythm last Friday.

Things that feel very true right now:

Life is fragile, and sometimes it's really scary and hard.

People are resilient, and love is healing.

Everything we know and experience here is partial and incomplete.

There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind!!

My PeiWei fortune cookie promise... I have lots of dreams and a lot to look forward to, but it all feels a bit vague and distant right now.  I'm in a mild grief and transition season, so that's okay.  There are better things ahead, here on earth and in Heaven!

"So prepare your minds for action and exercise self-control. Put all your hope in the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world."  ~1 Peter 1:13

I love you and believe in you,

and I pray that this Kingdom hope reminder was helpful today!

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